New Year and Winter Greetings 2014

  2014 – New Years and Winter  Greetings from Colorado

A friendly horse on a Winter's Walk.

A friendly horse on a Winter’s Walk.

I hope this finds you entering into a New Year filled with confidence and expectations of new and creative things to come !!  I know many HPSs who are joyfully anticipating a”transitional year” of exciting planned changes.   However, I also know many others who are dealing with loss, disappointment, health or relationship issues, or are just overwhelmed with the challenges of life in general.

In this Winter Issue of HSP Highlights and Insights I have both Insights and Highlights to share which I hope will address the struggles and challenges as well as the anticipation of new things.

 Let’s start with HSP Insights:
Facing and Celebrating Life’s Challenges and Joys:  Maitri & Tonglen
A Buddhist Meditation for HSPs
Top Eleven Ways for HSPs to Thrive by Jacquelyn Strickland

HSP Highlights   

Elaine Aron,   Santa Cruz, CA~ HSP Gathering,  June 2012
Elaine Aron, Santa Cruz, CA~ HSP Gathering, June 2012

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It is always such a nice feeling knowing this newsletter is connecting to thousands of HSPs around the world !  I would love to have you join me at a HSP Gathering or in a teleclass.   Please feel free to make a comment, introduce yourself, or ask a question.

With love and gratitude,
Jacquelyn

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Stages of Cultural Awareness & Acceptance as an HSP

Stages of Cultural Awareness and Acceptance
What Does it Mean to Acknowledge, Affirm & Promote our Sensitivities?

 The following definitions are from Webster’s Encyclopedic Unabridged Dictionary of the English Language, 1996.  The examples following the definitions may help us to rethink what we have been taught, what we have internalized and what we can do differently when it comes to being a Highly Sensitive Person.

 Disparage:
To belittle, demean, ridicule, discredit
Believing:  “HSPs’ are weak, irritable, inferior, fearful, too emotional, too nervous, too intense.”
Beliefs often associated with this stage:

There is something wrong with me

  • There is something wrong with me
  • I am a disappointment
  • I am powerless

Feelings often associated with this stage:

  • Dejected, Hopeless, Depressed, Ashamed, Overwhelmed, Fragile, Vulnerable

Deny:             

To refuse to recognize or acknowledge

Believing: “You’re too sensitive, you need to toughen up, bite the bullet, suck it up.”

Beliefs often associated with this stage:

  • My needs are not important
  • I cannot trust my judgement
  • I am weak – I am a failure
  • I have to be perfect

Feelings often associated with this stage:

  • Stressed out, irritable, angry, resentful, guilty, heavy hearted

Acknowledge:

To admit to be real or true; to recognize the existence of

Believing:  “Yes…your needs and mine are different … help me to understand you, so I can help you to understand me.”

Beliefs often associated with this stage:

  • I can be myself
  • I can get what I want and need
  • I have choices

Feelings often associated with this stage:

  • Relief, intrigued, inspired, absorbed,

Affirm:

To state or assert positively

Believing:  “HSPs have a unique way of being in the world, we have a more finely tuned  central nervous system, and we process things deeply and purposefully.”

Beliefs often associated with this stage:

  • I can trust myself
  • I can be myself and make mistakes
  • I can learn to take care of my sensitive self

Feelings often associated with this stage:

  • Proud, Relaxed, passionate, hopeful, optimistic

 

Promote:

To further, advance, or exalt; put in a higher position

Believing:  “HSPs are not “better” than non-HSPs, nor are we superior…yet, knowing that HSPs have unique gifts, talents, and skills and much to contribute to the world around us, our families, our workplaces, relationships, etc.”

Beliefs often associated with this stage:

  • I deserve love and respect
  • I am fine just as I am
  • I can trust my judgement
  • I can choose whom to trust

Feelings often associated with this stage:

  • Appreciative, Grateful, Inspired, Empowered, Excited

 

From:  Dr. Evonne Hedgepeth, Ph.D.,

“What Does It Really Mean to “Affirm” Versus “Promote”

A handout used in cultural diversity training.

Modified for HSPs by Jacquelyn Strickland, LPC. Use only with permission.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jacquelyn Strickland, LPC (970) 484-0840 – jacquelyn@hspgatheringretreats.com

 

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